I'm writing you from my desk here in Anchorage Alaska! I'm here for a month. I've already seen old friends from high school, feasted on the most amazing salmon and crab, and spent everyday working out in the fresh air.
I even had a quick date with a nice man from New Orleans.
This trip to Alaska was one of my top 3 desire for the second half of 2016.
Read MoreI'm fresh off of hosting my first retreat here in New Orleans for my Priestess group (a small group of women building their first six figures in revenue)
It was magical, spectacular, historical, and jam-packed with information.
New Orleans is some kind of city
And I am some kind of Money Coach
or should I say Financial Shaman/ Business Bruja
but even I get depleted and come into Monday feeling like the grapes of wrath.
Wrinkled, deserted, and sour.
What's a mystical, magical, fairy, princess, queen goddess to do?
1. Consult the group chat.Ask them what they like to do as a Monday pick-me-up. Don't have a group chat. Use mine: They suggested I take a walk. Which I am about to do as soon as I finish writing this.
2. Have a cup of chai. A lesser me would say have a donut but since I'm off sugar (AGAIN!!!) this is the next best thing. Plus cinnamon is a natural pick me up AND a sugar blues buster.
3. Do the dishes on Sunday night. So you don't have to wake up to them on Monday morning. I can handle dishes on any other day but. not. Mondays. And don't forget to wipe the counters. Clear counters, clear mind, said no one ever. I'm choosing to make it a thing.
4. Commit to only two things on your to do list. I promise everything else will fall away or wait. til. Tuesday.
5. Masturbation Monday. Is this a thing anywhere but Tumblr? If not I'm making it so. Go do it right now. I'll wait. Here's some terrible sci-fi erotica to get you going.
6. Plan your next Friday The 13th tattoo. Honestly I got a new tattoo on Friday and it was the most random and magical thing I've done in a while. It felt bold, as befits the goddess Fridays are named for.
7. If You're Stuck, Get a Mentor/Coach/Teacher.Seriously what are you waiting for. If your money isn't where you want to be, or your business still feels like a hobby, maybe you need a swift kick in the ass:)
A few things you should know about me.
Shame is not my thing. Everybody struggles with this money thing whether they make 30k or 130k.
I'm self made. No trust fund, No wealthy hubby. Just me
What you will get from this Free session.
1. Identify what you desire to create in the next 12 months
2. Identify the blocks that are keeping you from creating your desires
3. A concrete solution that you can take to the bank and brag to me a few months later about the changes you created.
Kind of like my girl Rebecca Louis Miller. Rebecca signed up for one of these free sessions with me and sent me this email a few months later:
"DENISESEXYMONEYCOOPER!
Just had to send a little progress report. First of all, I've been using Mint again (first enrolled after your workshop at Sacred, but fell off the wagon), and finding it HIGHLY pleasurable to think of saving as a game. It definitely brings fun back into saving. I've enjoyed creating fun names for categories, like "Polishing the Altar" for facials and nails, etc.
Secondly, I had an amazing job interview yesterday at ****.. I brag that the position was CREATED for me, and I'm the only candidate they're speaking to, and it was like true love. Pussy and I are in full agreement that this job is right for me.
The funniest thing happened when I went to ask for $100K, though. I asked for $90 instead. So I've got more work to do in that arena, clearly. But she didn't even blink!!
It's still a $20K raise for me, plus I'll be working one less hour and commuting almost two hours less each day. That's three hours of my life back, to work on my writing or practice pleasure or dance. Every single day!!!
The offices are beautiful, they feed us two organic communal lunches a week, onsite yoga/meditation/nap rooms, plants growing on the walls, and I'd be joining a team of communications goddesses! Pussy is in alignment too. Almost everyone works from home on Fridays...
Per your suggestion, I'm planning to build an altar on my new work station (they encourage you to decorate your desk, so they give you a $100 gift card when you start).
While this isn't a done deal, it feels very promising and I'm crazy excited. You and Mastery have helped pave the way for this epic shift.
So much love and gratitude,
Rebecca"
Need I say more? This blog post won't resonate with everyone, but a few of you have been checking me out over the years and wondering if I'm the real deal.
I am.
If you are ready to get unstuck financially.
p.s.
I'm doing another Full Moon Live Master Class! Sign Up Here Also share this blog post with 2-3 ladies who desire the power of ritual in their life to build wealth.
Most women are. Every woman I know has a natural born knack at something.
One of my friends in an ace at relationships,
another has the uncanny knack of making motherhood look easy.
Others are really good at being Insta-famous.
Me I’m good with money.
It’s not something that came naturally.
In fact, 10 years ago my biggest money desire was to make 55K a year.
Now I make that in a quarter.
So Darling? How’s your money?
Are you a pleasure seeker? (reformed pleasure seeker right here)
Do you save less than 5 percent of your income because when you’re feeling flush, you tend to buy things that aren’t necessary to your lifestyle?
Or maybe you’re an Idealist?
You work as an artist, musician, or entertainer, or you work for a nonprofit.
You don’t care about money because you mistrust it and the people who have it.
Whatever your financial archetype,
if your NET WORTH isn't growing
Then there's a kink (and not the good kind)
in your SELF WORTH chain
You are probably doing one of the following
Spending way more than you make
Afraid to ask for the number you are actually worth
Failing to invest your money in your future
Going unconscious when it comes to money and letting other people make financial decisions for you.
My Mission with Sexy Money is to create a tribe of women who ENJOY money and know how to make it and make it GROW.
That’s what I did when I doubled my income in one year. AND pleasurably cured a righteous shopping addiction.
I could tell you about the Sexy Money Students who surprise themselves by how much money they make. And save. And invest in their communities.
If all of these things sound good to you, sign up for my FREE
register for the challenge here
I believe helping women stand for their worth is a revolution.
And I look forward to the day when ALL women use words like grace, ease, pleasure and sexiness to describe how they feel about themselves AND their money.
You deserve to feel the flush of a first date when you look at your bank balance.
And you deserve to be a magical manifestor.
Treat yo self!
P.S. This challenge will never mention the following words: should, disciple, budget, or percentages. You may hear mention of pole dancing or domme’s though…You can get it here.
I don’t do resolutions.
New Year’s blows
it comes way too fast
like-- we just got done with Christmas and Thanksgiving
and now we’ve got to worry about a new year
which is why I'm petitioning to move New Year's to February
Here me out...
February is when the Chinese New Year happens and that new year is based on a new moon which is waaaay more conducive to new beginnings
February is closer to spring
and February signals the end of carnival season and the beginning of Lent so everyone else is ready to buckle down and get disciplined
That said, it's officially New Year's over here in the Sexy Money Dungeon
and
I'm giving you a tool I use every new year.
This tool helps me own my desires instead of just dreaming about them.
Last year I wanted my own loft apartment
(Guess who got her loft apartment!)
It's called a success map
Here's how it works
Think about last year and all the changes you made:
pick out the changes you consider successes
For each success create a map see worksheet here
Answer these questions:
You can also turn this into an art project like this
I do this every year and I'm able to start my new year in celebration instead of beating myself up for what I should be doing.
Now it's your turn.
What did you do right last year?
Show me your pictures on Instagram @sexymoneydenise or leave a comment on below.
xoxo,
Denise
Hey Darlin'
Last week I demonstrated a full moon ritual for my live master class.
There isn't a recording of that class,
but I thought I would make a video to show you the ritual.
Join me tonight as I do a Full Moon Purging Ritual.
Here is how you can prepare:
Gather Your Sacred Supplies
small slips of paper or manifestation papers
lighter or matches
a candle
fire proof cooking pot
incense or sage for cleansing
Cleanse Yourself
Take a salt water bath, sprinkle salt in the corners of the room you are in, or smoke yourself with sage
Then click here to watch the video
Dear Sexy Genius,
You have a powerful gift.
That thing where you lose track of time because you’re so in the flow.
That thing that makes people gush, “Wow, you’re amazing – thanks!”
and it felt like you barely did a thing because it was so natural.
That thing when you just feel… GOOD about what you’re doing.
Those are radiant moments.
And they’re often followed by thoughts like,
“I could never make a living at this. People WAY more experienced than me are offering something just like it.”
“Where would I even start?”
Read MorePfhewww I did it! After seven years of a dramatic and tumultuous affair with NYC I packed up all my shit and moved to the Big Easy
And easy it is (even the President thinks so)
The loft apartment I'm staying in is gorgeous and has just enough exposed brick and downtown buildings to remind me of New York but plenty of sunshine and jazz music in the streets to let me know that I'm in good ol’ New Orleans.
The best part is I've created a business that supports me and affords me the freedom to live anywhere.
I am in heaven. The food, the music, the people, the men (wink, wink)
And my joy means free goodies for you!
Next week I will be unveiling my next free mini challenge.
This challenge will show you the number one tool I use to bring in revenue and clients fast and easy.
In the meantime I've got a video for you that I did at the beginning of the summer.
It's all about the lessons I learned from the last launch of one of my favorite programs
40 days and 40 nights of prosperity which just ended a few weeks ago
So check out the video now.
It's a great hint for what's to come with the free mini challenge I'll be rolling out next week.
Until then, enjoy the video
I'm going to enjoy New Orleans
I hope you enjoy wherever you are
and let's talk soon
xoxo,
Denise
p.s. I created this video a few months ago while on vacation in Vermont check out my tips on creating an easy launch.
Hello Love,
I am in the process of preparing for a big move. As usual whenever I start a major shift or change in my life, I begin to feel anxious about money. At a certain point in your worth journey though you realize you can’t keep blaming your anxiety and fear on the money. It begins to feel ridiculous, especially when you are looking at bank statements with 13K or 20K in deposits each month and still feeling like you are poor.
So if it’s not the money then it's your money monster. Those insidious voices we’ve been programmed to feel. We are a people hardwired for struggle. Survival of the fittest has been stitched in our DNA. Money anxiety is an energetic problem that requires an energetic solution.
I studied a ton of chemistry in college and one thing I learned is this: fire is essential for transformation.
Today I am going to show you a ritual I use to release my money anxieties and fears.
Check out the video below!
Money ritual for letting go of anxiety and fear
Hello Beauty,
I just wrapped up a launch for one of my favorite programs 40 Days and Nights of Prosperity.
As 25 women and I prepared to take a deep dive into our own prosperity
I found myself in a deep funk
but nothing was wrong
the closest description I could give the feeling
is I had an intense feeling of restlessness or boredom
After months of expansion
record breaking revenue
more exposure
I felt like the party had come to an end.
Contraction
Falling instead of rising
Then a friend sent me this video and I was reminded that the universe is constantly expanding and contracting.
In fact there is a theory that the the universe is in a state of gradual expansion. Scientist theorize that the universe will reach the limits of expansion and once again contract only to expand once again.
In essence the universe is breathing.
Just like my body
Just like my life.
Periods of rapid expansion and manifestation are like the exhale and the quieter times are the inhales.
This blog post is my appreciation of the inhale and my preparation for the next exhale.
xoxo,
Denise
P.S. Where in your life are you experiencing expansion or contraction? use the comment section to give me the deets!
Greetings Sweet Friend,
Yesterday I began sharing the tale that birthed Sexy Money. It was a powerful awakening moment that stopped me in my tracks. Read about it here
A client said the words that would change my life:
“I can’t believe someone so sexy works with money.”
Everything I thought I’d been doing right - to be respectable, to be successful in my field - led me to this moment of truth.
First, I realized I had gotten comfortable not just wearing Wall Street gray but actually BEING GRAY. I thought my job was to not draw too much attention to myself
As far as I was concerned, I needed to tuck away any sensual, playful, feminine bits to be taken seriously.
Sound familiar?
I had a startling and profound realization: I wasn’t just trying to be respectable and successful.
I was trying to hide.
And I saw how I’d gotten REALLY good at hiding over the years. Looking back, it was how I’d learned to protect myself from hurt while I was growing up.
I’d been building my life and career on one painful and harmful assumption:
I needed to be different from who I really was in order to be successful.
Some people talk about lightbulb moments. This felt like a lightbulb tragedy. But one that would light the way to my own healing and liberation.
So, I wrote a really long letter to the universe. (As you do when someone sees your big shining light and it scares the bejeezus out of you.) In a nutshell, I said,
“Show me the way.”
Slowly and quietly, I got answers. The first of which was that I needed to get PHYSICAL.
So, I got the inspiration to book a shoot with a boudoir photographer. YOWSA!
This was definitely NOT hiding. And definitely NOT the image of the financial business-woman I’d been planning.
But it was my truth.
On the way to the session, I got a big pile of cash to pay the photographer.
Which became props in the photo shoot that inspired me to REALLY take the lid off.
To BE the embodiment of my work.
TO STOP HIDING.
I must confess, I LOVED the comment that I was too sexy to work with money. It spoke to my soul. Someone saw something I wasn’t seeing – namely that my sexiness, my sensual essence was undeniable. She was a force. And she wouldn’t be hidden any longer. So I had to step it up.
The more I owned my sacred sex magic, and the more hungry I allowed myself to be in my desires and my sensual passion – the more successful I became.
In fact, once I started owning the relationship between my sacred sensuality and my money, I had my first $8500 month.
As I began working with clients, integrating the spiritual, the sensual and the financial, something became so clear to me.
Women are hungry for their sensuality as much as for their prosperity.
Most of us are recovering from some type of sexual trauma – whether it’s direct or indirect, personal or cultural. We’re shamed. We’re insecure.
We hide.
The result?
We shut down our VOICES. Which keeps us INVISIBLE. Which limits our sexual and financial POWER.
We’re not taught that we can make a connection between sex and money in an EMPOWERED, CREATIVE way.
Well, until now.
Sexy Money CELEBRATES your relationship with your money as a JOYFUL manifestation of your DIVINE SENSUAL SELF.
The fabulous FREEDOM you feel putting an extra $1,000 per month into your bank account is the same freedom of feeling at home in your own delicious skin.
Mmmmmm. Yum.
Sexy Money means feeling good, whether you are spending or saving. Because when you are 100% CLEAR on YOUR WORTH and what YOU VALUE, your money reflects that.
Whether it’s clothes that make you feel badass, a healthy IRA account, a home with a backyard, starting your own business, investing in a day-care center in your old neighborhood so families can thrive… When you get yours, you can CHOOSE and CREATE in ways that align with your PASSION.
My healing journey has led me to create tools to help YOU find sacred sensual healing and… to BECOME WEALTHY.
And being healed then makes YOU a healer.
Because when one woman heals, she can’t help but bring the women around her HIGHER.
Abundance flows from your TURN-ON.
I realize that may sound nuts.
But so is keeping your light under gray flannel and thinking that’s the road to success and prosperity.
At your juicy and ecstatic service,
xoxo
Denise
P.S. It's Tonight!!!! I've added an encore Live Master Class for the Sexy Money Love Challenge to the Calendar register for that here
