You know those times when you are in the flow and everything always works out for you?
Yeah me neither.
LOL. No actually I can experience months and even years of extreme alignment where: my intuition hums along at a clipped place, I do what I say I am going to do, and I cross desires off my lists left and right.
Times when I hit my targets and even if I don’t hit them exactly (sometimes I like to dream big), I am still satisfied with my wins.
But what happens when you aren’t in the flow?
Trust me it happens to the best of us. Yes, even me.
I get disappointed. I’m sure you know the dulling effect of disappointment?
When everyday feels like you are wading in molasses.
When it feels like you are trying to go up on a down escalator or swim against the river currents.
Rule number 1 of Goddess Club.
What You Resist, Persists
I’ve identified 3 ways resistance makes women feel stuck.
Sometimes feeling or being stuck is just a product of natural resistance.
These are situations like: the contractor doesn’t finish a job on time, or your property doesn’t close when you expect.
Or to use an example of something in your personal life, you make a decision to not eat sweets today and somebody at the office walks in with a big plate of cupcakes.
Instances like this are simple physics and you just have to plan for them like engineers plan for wind resistance when building a race car.
This is the: I am not hot enough, smart enough, thin enough, rich enough. ect dilemma. Feeling not good enough is about shame and ultimately shame is about fear of disconnection or not belonging. This feeling often goes away when I do some type of personal development like a yoga/ fitness challenge or a new personal development course. I stopped beating myself up years ago for my need to continuously recharge my well and spend money on courses and personal development books. I’ve found I go farther faster when I do my internal work and success often feels easier than if I do things by muscling through the resistance. You can watch more of that journey here!
This one is my favorite because it is easy to remedy. This type of resistance happens when you don’t know what you don’t know and you get overwhelmed with your next steps. You know you are in this type of resistance when: you keep desiring to work with a mentor or a coach, or you keep scouring how-to books and videos, or you just want someone to tell you what to do.
How can you Overcome “Ignorant” Resistance?
Identify where you are stuck? When you feel stuck you can often feel confused and unsure of your next steps.Start by acknowledging you are stuck and asking for clarity. Then listen, clarity can come in all forms.
Sometimes success will feel uncomfortable and foreign and you will find yourself making excuses to not act by saying things like “I need more clarity”, “I’m waiting on a sign”, or “It doesn’t feel like this is the right time”, or even “I can’t afford this right now”.
I know for a fact that if you want a new pair of shoes you will find a way to make it happen, so why is your success any different?
Here are two questions to ask yourself when making a decision in real estate, business, or life:
- Is this in alignment with my values?
- Will this bring me closer to my desire?
Trust me, you will make the same decision in 30 minutes that you would in 30 days. Save yourself time and momentum by making your decisions more quickly.
Here’s an exercise to help you get unstuck.
I’m stuck because _______________.
My #1 goal in real estate is ___________________.
I want to reach my goal by (put a specific date here) ___________________.
The decisions I need to make are _______________.
The mentor who’s going to move me forward powerfully is ____________.
Being in the flow feels amazing like falling in love with yourself all over again.
Why not give this exercise a try.
Post your results in the facebook group.
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